Feeling like asking for help is a sign of weakness
Asking for help is the opposite of weakness. In fact it shows courage, an awareness of yourself and a desire to make things better.
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“A problem shared is a problem halved” is a common saying that is very true when it comes to asking for help. It's really common, especially in New Zealand, for people to feel uncomfortable about asking for help. However, as you will hear from the players on this site, asking for help is one the best things you can do. Need help right now? Scroll to the bottom of this page.
Know how & where to ask for help
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or want to know how to talk to someone, this information will help get you started.
Some of us have been brought up to feel as though asking for help means that we are “weak” or not “tough enough”. Some people feel like they should try and solve all of their problems on their own.
This is just not the case. It is always ok to ask for help. No matter what challenges you are facing there is someone out there who is willing and ready to help. You wouldn’t suggest to a struggling mate that they just “get over it” on their own, and the same goes for you.
Knowing how to ask for help and where to go are really important steps.
Asking for help
Some of the biggest challenges people face when asking for help are a fear of being judged, feeling embarrassed or not knowing how to ask.
Below are some common barriers people face and ways to overcome them.
Being put off by a bad experience
Sometimes when you ask for help you don’t get the response you were hoping for. It might’ve been bad timing or not quite the right person but don’t let that put you off asking for help again. Be selective and choose someone you trust.
Not knowing what to say
It can be tricky to know how to explain how you’re feeling or get it across the way you want to. There is no right or wrong way but a good tip is to write down a few of your thoughts or worries and use that as a prompt for when you chat.
Getting professional help
Making the decision to ask for help is a great step. It’s not always easy but acknowledging you need more support and doing something about it is incredibly positive and brave. Speaking to your GP is a good first step. They’ll be able to help you find the right support for what you need.
It can take time to get to the bottom of what is going on for you and that may mean a handful of appointments or more. Be patient with yourself and the person you are speaking to.
Have a look below at the list of people who can help.
Helplines
Don’t wait. There are many options to call or text for instant support and help right now. These teams are available for all New Zealanders feeling down, anxious, overwhelmed or who just need to kōrero with someone.
If you need urgent help now, you can call 111 and let the operator know that you or someone you know is in immediate danger of harming themselves. You can also go to the emergency department at the nearest hospital.
